Monday, 5 October 2009

God spare me from the evil that is smugness....

I'm very cross. So cross in fact I need to vent to you all. I'm usually a calm and contained person, slow to anger, except in the car and there, to be honest, all decorum flies out the window. To my shame I've even give some poor woman the finger (yes I know! Im bloody 44!!) when she had the temerity to pull out in front of me a tad slowly....

Any hoo. Back to why I'm so cross. Me and my lovely man went to dinner at a friend of his on Saturday night. We had agreed that I'd drive home so wouldn't drink. All fine so far. I'd met this couple only the once before and they seemed ok. Just like us in fact. Hmmmm. Well on Saturday night I realised how bloody tedious people are when drunk and you are very sober. Now my lovely man has a rather , erm, checkered romantic history shall I say. He has 2 ex partners and 3 kids by said partners. One ex is fairly ok, but the other is a bloody psycho. Our hosts on Saturday night have met both ex's, and now me. So far so ...ok...

As they got more sloshed, the questions and remarks about my lovely man's personal life became more pointed and intrusive. He was getting just as sloshed so answered the questions as they came...I think he felt a bit overwhelmed and his guilt about his kids etc always surfaces when he's had a few... Now, me being sober,tried to change the subject a number of times...to no avail. The wife even went so far as asking my lovely man if he had realised how much he had fucked up his life - charming and so subtle!!

So. result? One pissed man, one very sober pissed off woman and two bloody nosey hosts who had their curiosity well and truly sated. The cherry on the cake of that evening was them asking when the big day was for us and should the wife buy a hat any time soon!! I nearly fekkin said 'buy one and I'll shove it sunshine,' but I didn't. They wouldn't have remembered anyway next morning.

So, what I'm really cross about is why some people are so nosey and so keen to pass judgement and tell you what THEY think about how you live your life. I suppose this couple, who've been married 25 years are what good old Bridget Jones would've called Smug Married. They mugged my lovely man at the dinnertable and he foolishly, gave in to them. I'm no saint, but I would NEVER probe so deeply or personally just to get a vicarious thrill out of anothers 'misfortune'...hmmmm.

So, I'll be giving this couple a very wide bearth in future. Divorce, death,poor health I can cope with. Smugness and crass insensitivity...ugh, God spare me that.